Most people can list values they aspire to.
But real values aren’t what you say. They’re what you protect.
In this solo episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa shares one simple question to help you uncover your core values without getting lost in theory:
What do you consistently choose, even when it costs you?
Because the choices that cost you time, energy, resources, or even conflict… are often the clearest signal of what you truly value.
Tessa walks through how this question showed her a value that was present long before she had language for it (including why altruism, helping, and sacrifice were deeply embedded in how she relates, what she says yes to, and what she’s willing to say no to).
If you’ve been trying to “find your values” but keep getting stuck in words, this episode will help you locate them where they actually live: in your patterns, your boundaries, and what you’re willing to pay for.
