Living From Truth, Not “Should” (Solo with Tessa Tubbs)

Living From Truth, Not “Should” (Solo with Tessa Tubbs)

Duration: 00:03:44

What happens when your life looks exactly the way it’s “supposed” to look… but it doesn’t feel like yours?

In this solo episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa shares a defining moment from her corporate career: a prestigious, high-visibility “destination” role that checked every box, yet carried a quiet grief she couldn’t ignore. She unpacks the difference between doing what’s admired and doing what’s true, and why “should” can be seductive while still pulling you out of alignment.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • How to recognize when you’re trying to “talk yourself into” a life that isn’t meant for you
  • Why “I should be grateful” can sometimes mask misalignment
  • The decision filter Tessa uses now: not “Is it right or coveted?” but “Is it true for me?”
  • How choosing truth changes what you say yes to, how you lead yourself, and the contentment you experience day to day

If you’ve ever felt successful on paper but unsettled on the inside, this episode is an invitation to stop living by default and start choosing from truth.

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